Monday, November 5, 2018

Life is a Game of Mistakes

Something we have been trying to get our athletes to understand as we coach is that Basketball is a game of mistakes.  In the game of basketball you are always going to make mistakes, they are inevitable. You can’t avoid making mistakes and if you try to avoid making them then you probably aren’t playing that hard. The goal is not to simply “not make mistakes”, the goal is to respond to the mistakes you made in a positive manner. When a mistake is made in the game, are you the kind of athlete that just gets upset or blames someone else for it? Do you look for a way not to take responsibility for your own actions? How we respond to the mistakes we make is far more important than the mistake we made in the first place. This is all a part of the learning process. We have to open our eyes to see things like, what we could have done differently or how could I have done it better in order to really take our game to the next level. This really applies to any sport we play but even more so towards the life we are living. 

Throughout our life time, we will make countless mistakes. Some may have been avoidable, some maybe not. The most important aspect of the mistakes we make is how we choose to respond to them. We can get upset, blame other people, blame the circumstances, or choose not even to acknowledge it. When we do these things, nobody wins. I hate making mistakes, absolutely despise it. I have had to learn over the years that this is just a necessary part of the learning process God has put in place. No matter what direction I turn, I feel like I am making mistakes in just about every area of my life. 

God wants us to understand that we need him. In every aspect of life we need God’s presence in order to be all that we can be for him. Just like a good coach, God allows us to make mistakes but he wants us to learn from them. When we don’t embrace that learning process it’s like we are telling God we don’t want to learn what he has to teach us. In Isaiah 55:8-9, God talks about how his thoughts are not our thoughts and his ways are not like our ways, we can only see part of the picture but God sees the whole picture. Who are we to question the process he has put in place to learn? It’s painful at times to acknowledge and face our mistakes. It’s never a pretty sight but these are the things that remind us to turn to God and understand that he has a higher purpose for us, one that we could never imagine. 

“For My thoughts are not your thoughts, and your ways are not My ways.” This is the Lord’s declaration. “For as heaven is higher than earth, so My ways are higher than your ways, and My thoughts than your thoughts.”
‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭55:8-9‬ ‭HCSB‬‬

Tuesday, October 23, 2018

Out of Your Control

I recently suffered a pretty bad ankle sprain. Those of you who follow me on instagram (@coachedintruth) probably saw the hedious picture I posted of it! Anyway, with that being said, I’ve had a lot of time to sit and think about life and one of the things that has crossed my mind is the idea of control. We all like to have control one way or the other. We try to make ourselves feel like we have control because we believe control is what is going to bring us peace. The truth of the matter is that we actually have very little control of the things that go on around us. Many people complain that they don't see the results they want to see in their lives. They were told as a young child that if they worked hard and they set their mind to something that they would be able to accomplish whatever they wanted to accomplish. I'm not sure I agree with that....I believe there are always aspects of our lives that we have no control over. Sometimes they are good things and other times they are bad things. Now I do believe that the choices and decisions we make have an effect on the outcome of different life situations but I refuse to accept that it is all a result of me. God is in control of my life, not me. This does not void me of the responsibility of making sound choices but I would be arrogant to think that my life is solely based on the choices I have made.

There are times throughout the whole bible where God's people had no control over the circumstances they were in. Job is a great example of this. He was a God fearing man who had done everything God had asked of him yet he faced a lot of pain and suffering. If I was in Job's situation I would have been soooo confused! I mean why was God allowing all this to happen to a person that loved God so much! In life we are faced with choices on a constant basis and a lot of times we have no idea how those choices will affect our future. Sometimes things turn out exactly how we expect them to turn out and other times we are left completely confused as to why things turned out the way they did.

You can approach the game of basketball just as you approach life. You can prepare, practice, scheme, plan and take a deep look at every choice you will make throughout the time of the game but you will never be able to say with 100% confidence what the result of the game will be. There will always be outliers that we cannot see, there will always be situations we couldn't have predicted and honestly I think that's what makes the game so exciting. No matter how much you prepare, the unknown will always be present. 

So does this mean we just should throw in the towel and not prepare at all? I mean if we can't prepare for everything then why try to prepare at all if we are just going to end up being face to face with what we were unprepared for? That's where we are wrong because it's not about trying to be prepared for every situation possible, it's more about training ourselves on how we will respond when we are faced with the unknown or unexpected.

We are so concerned at times with having all the answers and we work our little fingers to the bone until we feel like we have accomplished answering all the questions but the truth is we will never have the answer to every challenge we are faced with. What we can do is resolve to having a godly mindset or attitude that we use when we are faced with the unexpected. (Colossians 3:1-4)

The truth of the matter is that God is the only one with all the answers. Even if he doesn't give us the specific answers to our specific problems, he does provide for us a way of thinking that allows us to process all that we go through. I love that about my relationship with God because it takes so much of the pressure off of me. God reveals to me exactly what needs to be revealed to me in order for me to see him. I don't have to have all the answers but I do know where to go when I have questions. Nowhere else on this earth provides such an outlook on life, God has promised us protection and he has made a relationship with Him available to us all. What other answer could we possibly ask for?

Sunday, September 16, 2018

An Athlete’s Truth - AJ Iiames

So I have accidentally deleted one of my previous posts so I am re-posting it now. It's a great read so if you didn't read it the last time I posted it, be sure to check it out now!

I have another incredible article written by another dear friend of mine who is going to share his story about what being Coached in Truth really means to him. He is a phenomenal athlete that has a heart for God and a mindset to bring glory to God's name. It's a story of difficult situation's and overcoming those situations through a Godly perspective. I would like to introduce you all to AJ Iiames and share with you his story of being Coached in Truth.

From the piedmont to the mountains of Asheville, NC, I embarked on an adventure that I will never forget. When I had committed to the University of North Carolina at Asheville, I had no idea what exactly that meant. My way of life would take a dramatic turn. I wanted to mention a couple things that college brought on my spiritual journey as a disciple who happened to be a collegiate athlete.

Three things I learned over my four and a half year career that changed and shaped me were perseverance, self worth, and influence. My mother encouraged me to read the book of Joshua as soon as I reported for preseason before my freshman year of college at UNC Asheville.  In a different world on my own, I decided to take my mother up on that. After Moses’ death, Joshua was called to lead the Israelite people with the promise that God would be with him. One major theme in that first chapter was the repetition of God calling Joshua to be strong and courageous (Joshua 1:6, 7, 9, 18).  I have learned that whenever the Bible repeats itself, God must be trying to teach!  So I took this to heart throughout the preseason and into my first year as a student-athlete. Being an athlete, like what everyone else has said, it is not easy to resist temptation. I was fortunate enough to have two roommates who were there to run the race with me, one of whom was a teammate.  Satan knows when to corner you, when to chase you, and when to devour you.  He is always on the prowl.  I knew that if I were to grow apart from these brothers, that it would only mean death (spiritual).  As crazy and dramatic as that sounds, it is the truth. The inability to attend church functions and bible talks racks up.  The question was “What am I going to do about it?”  Like many of my fellow athletes, defining my career in terms of athletic success was difficult to avoid.  I needed a personal relationship with Jesus, which was not a habit I had forged in high school.  The road was long and at times difficult, but that is where perseverance emerges.
My career was full of physical, emotional, and spiritual perseverance.  By the end of my freshmen year, I had been successful on and off the field; starting most games, contributing to the ministry, and working hard in the classroom.  In the last game of spring season against NC State, the ball got kicked over top our back line and I was in a dead sprint with the offensive player from NC State to win the ball.  As soon as I took a couple steps, I crumbled to the grass in agonizing pain.  I remember thinking to myself: “This surely couldn’t happen to me.  I have only seen this on television.”  Results came back that week stating that I had torn my ACL and my meniscus.  The rest of my career followed a similar pattern.  I tore my ACL in the other knee, and re-tear my meniscus; I had a total of three surgeries to repair everything.  Troubles came my way, but with God, nothing is impossible.  I hung to 2 Peter 1:5-8, which says “For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness;  and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love.  For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.”  Adding to my faith in a difficult time to have faith was the most important calling for me in this low point.  People and circumstances will always disappoint, but looking to God through those times and choosing to persevere is the key.  It is all about what choice you make. 

Like many of my fellow athletes, defining my career in terms of athletic success was difficult to avoid.  Many of the other athletes have touched on the complexity to which self worth is attributed.  I attributed a lot of self worth to my performance on the field, which led to quick spurts of success and failure.  It is simple in my mind how this all changed: Jesus died.  He didn’t just die for me, but for all who choose to follow Him.  For Him to die so that I could have the chance of life to the full is all that you need to quickly scatter the thoughts of where you are receiving your worth.

I love how all situations and life-events all revolve in a cyclical fashion.  It is the same as sin; how nobody has done something so outlandish that someone else has not yet thought of or done.  I feel this way about the influences we as athletes have on others.  The most influential I felt was when I was going through a hard time on the field or with my faith, and God gave me the words to say.  When I was injured, to serve without expecting return, even if it hurt to give.  I was able to be a light in the darkest of times, whether physically or spiritually.  The biggest lesson I learned, and continue to learn with my walk with God, is to continually pursue God.  He is always reaching out to us, but nothing happens with our influence and actions if he is not at the forefront of our minds and hearts.  I had involved another teammate who happened to be injured for a month or so with a sprained knee.  We were doing the dirty work like moving the goals, putting down cones, doing laundry, etc.  He had a terrible attitude most days with those deeds, but I had submitted to God that service and decided, “why not do this to the best of my ability?”  One time when we were moving a goal, he was complaining again, and I told him, “in order to lead, you need to serve.”  I remember that specifically because he never complained again and went on to co-captain with me the following season.  I’m not providing this example in pride, but it illustrates what influence God can have in other people’s lives if you stand firm in his teachings and humble yourself. 

I wanted to provide a quick shout out to Justin Drabot for creating this awesome outlet for those involved/wanting to get involved in sports.  It’s much more than just playing a sport.  Just another way God can be glorified through us as vessels of Jesus.

AJ Iiames Bio:

I was on the Presidential Honor Roll (over 3.0 for semester) my whole career and captained the team from 2013-2015 (3 seasons).  I played on the defensive line for most of my career.  We played against the likes of UNC-Chapel Hill, Duke, NC State and Wake Forest during my career, which harness some of the top talent in the country.  We beat #6 Coastal Carolina twice in my career as the extreme underdog.  It was a career plagued by injury, but abounding in life knowledge and experience. Here is a glimpse at my stats year-to-year: 

2011: Earned 10 starts and played in 14 contests.
2012: Red-shirted due to injury.
2013: Started and played in 16 matches before missing the last three matches of the year with a knee injury.
2014: Played in eight matches with one start after coming back from knee surgery. 
2015: Started in 15 games.

Monday, January 1, 2018

New Year, New Opportunities!

Happy New Year!!!

A new year brings new opportunities and new obstacles that I may have never faced before. There is really no way to predict the future outcomes of everything I will experience and there is no guarantee that I will understand why everything occurs. As much as I think I have control over particular outcomes, the truth is that I only have control over how I respond to those outcomes. It becomes easy for me to believe I have control when my actions produce the given result that I expected them to produce. It gives me a sense of assurance that whatever I did, produced the outcome I expected. In 1 Corinthians 3:6-9, Paul is trying to explain to the leadership in Corinth that they have been worldly in their thinking because they have been focused on man rather than on God. He explains to them that even though he is the one who planted the and Apollos was the one who watered it, God is the one who actually made it grow and spread . You see, even though we play a role in the growth and direction of our lives, God is the one who actually exerts control over what happens in our lives. 

We may have a dream to do something in our lives. We all have a specific (or at least a general) direction in which we see our lives going but that doesn’t necessarily mean that will be the direction God is asking us to walk in. Personally, I have wanted to be a basketball coach for a long time and now that I am actually fulfilling that dream I still have to be willing to ask myself, “Is this where God wants me or is he trying to get me to walk in a different direction?” I absolutely love coaching and I love the coaches and athletes I get to work with. It can be a challenge at times, and I get frustrated on a regular basis, but it is a work that I adore because it means so much to me to be in the role that I am in. It would tear me apart to walk away from it at this point but if God made it clear that I needed to step away from it, then I would need to step away from it. If I am going to claim to love God and that he is my absolute and first priority, then I would need to live that out by the actions I take. I can’t allow what I believe is best for me interfere with what is actually best for me. What is actually best for me is to open my eyes and be willing to walk in the direction God is directing me. We may even “water” the dream in order to grow and develop and set ourselves up for the best possible scenario, but if God decides not to let that dream grow, then that dream will not grow. 

That is why we must be so in tune with the Spirit and the direction He wants us to take because He is the one who ultimately decides the direction we take. He will close doors and open others and it’s our responsibility as disciples to utilize our free will to be sure we are following the path God has laid out for us.
So with all that being said, we are all left with a choice: a choice to either follow the path God has laid out for us or to try and make our own way. We are presented with choice every single day, and the choices we make will either pull us away from God or pull us closer to him. So how will you respond?

"I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God has been making it grow. 7 So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow. 8 The one who plants and the one who waters have one purpose, and they will each be rewarded according to their own labor. 9 For we are co-workers in God’s service; you are God’s field, God’s building."
1 Corinthians 3: 6-9

Have a great start to the year everyone!

Oh and shout to my buddy Shawn for helping me edit on such short notice!!! You are the man!!!